This decision has been harder for me than I ever thought it would be. When I was younger I had NO question in my mind whether or not Same Sex Marriage should be allowed. No way, it was just wrong.. esp in the 80’s I remember it being so WRONG to be gay and not accepted in society. I remember seeing two ladies kissing when I was 10 or 11 and being so confused and honestly grossed out. Thanks to television my views have been shaken. When I am watching TV only cruel and ignorant people are against homosexuality. The shows I watched were very moving and I started to feel so much compassion for these gay couples, which I am grateful for. I got to see another side that I never thought about. One of the shows that I am refereeing to is ER when Carrie lost her partner and she had no rights to any of the funeral arrangements or the baby they adopted together. It was very confusing and conflicting to me. Since then I have been a little bit of a fence sitter. I mean everything in my compassionate nature told me that this isn’t right to take this away from people. I still feel that it doesn’t seem fair and is still confusing. I wish I had all the answers and understanding, but I don’t.
HOWEVER, as I have been prayerfully asking Heavenly Father for an answer I do feel closer to understanding. I read
“In today’s secular world, the idea of tolerance has come to mean something entirely different. Instead of love, it has come to mean condone – acceptance of wrongful behavior as the price of friendship. Jesus taught that we love and care for one another without condoning transgression. But today’s politically palatable definition insists that unless one accepts the sin he does not tolerate the sinner.”That helped me explain why I was so confused. I felt that I had to ACCEPT that homosexuality is not a sin and I just couldn’t do that. I DO believe it is a sin. Do I think that all of my gay friends are evil sinners and want to shun them? NO. Society is teaching me that I am a politically incorrect jerk who hates all homosexuals if I don’t believe what they are doing is right. I am not a jerk, and I AM compassionate, so WHY do I feel so bad and confused?
As Elder Dallin H. Oaks has explained:Tolerance obviously requires a non-contentious manner of relating toward one another’s differences. But tolerance does not require abandoning one’s standards or one’s opinions on political or public policy choices. Tolerance is a way of reacting to diversity, not a command to insulate it from examination
Even as I write this I am debating weather or not to send this on or post on my blog. But WHY??? B/C for some reason it is so much more acceptable for morals that are opposing to general Christian beliefs to be SHOVED down my throat than it is to be able to stand up for my beliefs. Everywhere I look I see half naked women, sexual innuendos, premarital sex, alcohol cigarette adds… last but NOT least..pornography everywhere. I don’t see people going ballistic on this, instead it is TOTALLY acceptable. It is getting to the point that God/Christianity are not allowed to be mentioned in government places but HEAVEN FORBID me complaining that I don’t want opposing beliefs being taught to my child in school. (
When the state says that same-sex unions are equivalent to heterosexual marriages, the curriculum of public schools will have to support this claim. Beginning with elementary school, children will be taught that marriage can be defined as a relation between any two adults and that consensual sexual relations are morally neutral. Classroom instruction on sex education in secondary schools can be expected to equate homosexual intimacy with heterosexual relations. These developments will create serious clashes between the agenda of the secular school system and the right of parents to teach their children traditional standards of morality. ) IT is TOTALLY acceptable to teach my child that gay couples are normal and should be accepted in our society and I am a jerk for not agreeing with this. So why not teach them about Purgatory, heaven and hell, three degrees of Glory, reincarnation, Buddah, Alah.. WHY? Because this is a school, not a place to teach about beliefs. My son never came home from school with a pamphlet on a heterosexual family. Also, can you imagine the confusion of these poor children. It should be up the the parent of when and how they would like to teach about different beliefs. My son is 8 and I am still working on the sex talk and soon will explain what homesuality is. I don't want it SHOVED down his throat in school! especially as early as kindergarden!
Legalizing same-sex marriage will affect a wide spectrum of government activities and policies. Once a state government declares that same-sex unions are a civil right, those governments almost certainly will enforce a wide variety of other policies intended to ensure that there is no discrimination against same-sex couples. This may well place “church and state on a collision course..The prospect of same-sex marriage has already spawned legal collisions with the rights of free speech and of action based on religious beliefs. For example, advocates and government officials in certain states already are challenging the long-held right of religious adoption agencies to follow their religious beliefs and only place children in homes with both a mother and a father. As a result, Catholic Charities in Boston has stopped offering adoption services.Other advocates of same-sex marriage are suggesting that tax exemptions and benefits be withdrawn from any religious organization that does not embrace same-sex unions [17] Public accommodation laws are already being used as leverage in an attempt to force religious organizations to allow marriage celebrations or receptions in religious facilities that are otherwise open to the public. Accrediting organizations in some instances are asserting pressure on religious schools and universities to provide married housing for same-sex couples. Student religious organizations are being told by some universities that they may lose their campus recognition and benefits if they exclude same-sex couples from club membership"So basically this infringes on MY RIGHTS as a citizen to believe what I feel is right. Instead, I would be FORCED to accept this behavior. How is that constitutional?
The arguments can go on and on… and I hate that this is such a sensitive subject and even hurtful to those who may feel judged wrongly or made to feel evil for being gay. Especially if they were born with these tendencies. These individuals may wonder if they were born gay why can we judge them and expect them to be different. I mean, it isn’t as if they can FORCE themselves to love and be attracted to the opposite sex. I don’t even want to pretend to have all of the answers. I have no idea what I would do if that were me, and if my child ever comes home and tells me he/she is gay I would NEVER shun them. I would love them and just ask them to follow what is in his/her heart. And I would hope to be able to support and love them while staying true to my beliefs.
I know those who believe that homosexuality is normal would disagree with the statement that I think it would be a hard trial to have, maybe they wouldn’t think it is a trial.
As far as LDS church members are concerned, I think this is where people will have to decide which way they decide to believe. There are many prophecies where the Lord states that in the end even the most faithful will fall away from the church. This could be one of those beliefs that will make people so angry and want to leave the church. The fact is that the General Authorities have stated very clearly what the Lord would have us believe. But it is up to find our own answers “I
would exhort you that ye would ask God, the Eternal Father, in the name of Christ, if these things are not true; and if ye shall ask with a sincere heart, with real intent, having faith in Christ, he will manifest the truth of it unto you, by the power of the Holy Ghost. And by the power of the Holy Ghost ye may know the truth of all things.” Moroni 10: 4-5As I write this I get a little nervous of losing friends over this, and if not the friendship itself, then respect. I know I have several friends who will COMPLETELY disagree with me. I would like the same treatment given to me as I plan to give to those opposing my beliefs. I will still LOVE and ADORE my good friends who oppose these beliefs and will still respect your views and opinions. I just ask for the same, that we can agree to disagree and not argue or fight about this. I just want to be more brave and stand up for what I believe with out having great fear of losing those I love. For these are my beliefs. 2 Tim 8:2 “Be not thou therefore ashamed of the testimony of our Lord.”